STOP FINDING YOURSELF
“there's no 'you' to find. become someone worth loving.”
The Lesson
Don't bother trying to 'find yourself' or 'love yourself'-there's no such thing as a fixed you. You're not the average of baby. You through now. You're continuously changing, and the past is already irrelevant. Instead: focus on the future. Think about what you're doing right now to become a better version of yourself. All satisfaction and meaning come from being on a path to improvement, not from navel-gazing at history. On your deathbed, if you did good work from this point forward, you'll love yourself-because by then you'll be awesome.
Real-World Example
A founder spirals into 'Who am I really? What do I want?' They're stuck examining past failures and childhood patterns. They flip the frame: 'There's no me to find. There's only the me I'm building.' They stop therapy-journaling and start skill-building. Six months later, they don't need to 'find' themselves. They like who they're becoming.
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